My (30F) SO (M30) has his ex-FWBs on IG. Ask him to delete or just leave it?

We tried to have a baby for two years, I was told we couldn’t conceive without medication due to PCOS, etc. We had many failed attempts at pregnancy and I pretty much let the idea go that we wouldn’t be having a baby. With a bit of a surprise, last fall, we found out we were pregnant and I was pretty shocked, to say the least. I had a complete freak out, didn’t know if I wanted to keep the baby, worried about our marriage, finances, and my husband constantly reassured me that things would be great and we should be excited! He was thrilled when I told him, like way excited and somewhat confused by my reaction. I was freaking out daily and he said he was going to step up, take care of everything, reassured me our marriage would be stronger than ever, we would be more connected, help with the house (it’s in bad shape, needs some serious help with paint on popcorn ceilings, huge piles of clutter we need to go through, just a lot), would be supportive and helpful with my pregnancy (like rubs and runs to the store for late night cravings) and we wanted to do a partner-supported birth process which includes a lot of hands-on husband involvement and a 12-week course. then he got laid off. Without going into too much detail, we ended up having to downsize vehicles, really dial it in with finances, and we became extremely stressed with a baby coming. At the same time, all of his involvement with the pregnancy disappeared. He gave me more affection and attention before the pregnancy and my hormones make this feel so incredibly personal. He is no longer attempting any intimacy, sexually or otherwise. No cuddles at night, no rubs, no asking about baby updates, lots of video game time, lots of spending time on his phone, he’s told me many times that he needs to decompress and I feel more alone and lonely than ever before and I’ve been talking to him very openly about this. I have a great therapist and my husband and I have had a lot of discussion involving these sensitive topics. I have a lot of empathy for his position and stress, but I feel completely unheard in my role. Then today, he tells me he spends a lot of time on this sub, and feels so bad for the women who are being gaslit, lied to, etc. He seems so involved and invested in all these relationships online, meanwhile, our marriage is on fire. I told him that upsets me and he tells me “I’m not doing anything wrong” which isn’t untrue, but I am so hurt by this empathy for other random women online while I am in my most insecure, vulnerable state and he knows it. I know I’m probably leaving out some things but I hope I can find some help or advice somewhere. I spend so many nights crying myself to sleep, sobbing in the shower, reading baby books alone, and just hoping that things will get better. I’m supposed to be relying on him for a lot of support during labor and delivery and I feel so abandoned. Help? submitted by /u/xnightwolflivesx [link] [comments]

My wife and I have been going through a difficult time over the past few months. She told me she’s felt unappreciated and disconnected, partly because of some choices I made, like changing jobs, which affected our finances briefly, and being more physically affectionate than she wanted during that time. I’ve been trying to address her concerns, but this week, things escalated in a way I wasn’t prepared for. She told me she wanted a divorce and moved her ex-husband into our home. They have three children together, and she reorganized our living space: their youngest is now sharing a room with her ex (formerly our bedroom), and I was moved to a separate room entirely. This all happened while I was at work. A few days later, I went through her phone, something I regret doing, but I discovered a long history of emotional conversations between her and her ex, starting around when she began distancing herself from me. They were discussing their past relationship, saying they loved each other, and planning for him to move back in. She had already started filling out divorce paperwork by early May. When I confronted her, we ended up having a serious talk. She explained that she never wanted to end her first marriage and that she did this for the kids so they didn’t have to grow up in a “broken family”. I understand where she is coming from being raised by a single mother and not knowing her father most of her life but I’m also from a “broken family” where I was abused and I believe that her going back and being in a relationship with him is not right because she is doing it for the wrong reasons and that would only hurt and confuse the children more. I understand the emotional weight behind that, but it’s still been very painful to process. Since then, her ex has left again. She’s been softer toward me and said she’s confused and hurting. She also said she would understand if I chose to leave. I’m still here and trying to find a way to move forward, because this relationship matters a lot to me. Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to navigate the aftermath of what happened. This isn’t the first time her ex has come back into the picture in a disruptive way. I want to move forward thoughtfully, but I’m unsure what that looks like from here. I’m looking for advice from others who’ve navigated a similar situation, how did you approach rebuilding trust, managing shared living spaces, or figuring out if the relationship was still viable? What steps helped you move forward? submitted by /u/ThrowRA_BrokenHearts [link] [comments]

I'm on Hinge and I'll be texting girls the most innocent things, and then they stop replying. It's so random. I promise I'm not saying anything rude, just trying to be light and keep the conversation engaging. It doesn't matter if I ask her out right away or if I try to get to know her a little beforehand, the result is the same. They just stop replying. It's starting to get in my head and making me feel like I'm doing something wrong. This app is driving me insane. submitted by /u/Enough-Locksmith-897 [link] [comments]

I live a pretty isolated life. Work from home, live with my parents, still paying student loans, mostly hobbies from home as well, or with sports that are almost entirely men. I was really shy growing up, so I was invisible to women in my teens and in college I had no clue what to do either. I've "tried" to date all through my 20s with dating apps, and it's failed to bring me a hookup nor a relationship. I've gone on a million first dates but nothing ever sticks. As much as I just wanna get laid, I would also like to find a girlfriend. This is a massive insecurity for me and before you ask, I'm in therapy. I want to be free from this hell before I'm 30. What can I do? submitted by /u/DevilFromDanteMayCry [link] [comments]

I’m 15f. Like if we’re watching a movie or something for example, I’ll snuggle up to him on the couch and lay with him. He’ll kiss me on the forehead and cheek. He tells me he loves me a lot and we hug each other all the time. I feel really loved by him. I feel like other people my age don’t really have as close of relationship like that with their dad (or at least some of my friends have told me that they don’t do this). Is this weird or uncommon, especially cuddling with your dad as a teenager? submitted by /u/Sweet-Flower1502 [link] [comments]

My son is 18M, he recently started dating a new girl [18F] from his school. They went on a date last week and he dropped her home afterwards. Her parents were in the front yard so he went to greet them. The dad asked his daughter how the date went and she said it went well. Then he replied "that's good, you better treat her well". My son said "yes of course". The dad said, "I have no doubt you will, but just in case there are any problems, I have a shotgun in the garage". My son got freaked out and got into his car and came home and told me what happened. About an hour later, the girl's mom called me and apologized for the "misunderstanding" and said that her husband said it "jokingly". I didn't say much and just thanked her and hung up. My son is a bit freaked out and doesn't know if he wants to keep seeing this girl. He is also a bit socially awkward and has difficulty making friends. I want to guide him but I'm not sure what to say. TL;DR My teenage son got a new girlfriend and her dad "jokingly" threatened him with a gun. submitted by /u/CostRains [link] [comments]

Update： Thank you again to everyone who shared their thoughts. After reading through the responses and reflecting on everything, I have started looking for a new place and plan to move out soon. What really pushed me to take action was something that happened recently. A’s mum came to stay for a while, and when she found out that A’s boyfriend had basically been living in the house too, she was furious. There was a physical fight. When B and I tried to break it up, A’s mum accidentally elbowed me and left a large bruise on my arm. She also broke part of the back door frame during the chaos. That was when I realised this living situation is not only financially unfair but also emotionally exhausting and chaotic. It made me ask myself why I am still here and helped me see it is time to leave. I still have not decided whether I will say anything directly to A and B after moving out. Right now I just want to focus on removing myself from this situation and giving myself some peace. Original： Hi all, I’m in a difficult situation and would really appreciate advice on how to approach it with as little conflict as possible. I (24F) have been living with two roommates, A (24F) and B (25F), in a 4-bedroom house in Australia for the past 1.5 years. A and I have been close since middle school, and when I first moved to Australia, she invited me to move in. She told me rent would be $400 per week. I trusted her and assumed I might be paying slightly more, maybe $50 extra, because I had what I thought was a private bathroom. After about six months of living together, the three of us became really close. We cooked together, hung out often, and supported each other through ups and downs. I genuinely thought we were living as equals and friends. Recently I found out the total rent is under $900 per week, and A and B each pay under $300 per week. I have unknowingly been covering nearly half the full rent the entire time. Here is the room situation: • Each of us has our own bedroom. • The fourth room, which has the only ensuite bathroom, is fully used by A and B as their shared wardrobe, vanity, and private bathroom. I never use it. • I use a separate bathroom located outside the main house, accessible only through the backyard. It leaks when it rains, attracts bugs, and also contains the washing machine. • I furnished my bedroom myself. A and B provided second-hand furniture in shared spaces like the living room. The house is owned by a family friend of B’s, and according to them, the rent has stayed “low” because of that connection. A used this as justification for why I should be paying more, claiming I was already getting a good deal. When I brought up the rent difference, B suggested we start splitting things more evenly. A rejected that idea, saying the discount and their furniture contributions made it fair. They eventually reduced my rent to $330 per week, but by that point I had already overpaid by around $6000. Now I feel hurt and taken advantage of. I trusted A, and thought we were friends. I would still like to talk with B calmly because she seems more reasonable, but I honestly do not want to stay friends with A anymore. I want to bring this up and ask for fairness or partial repayment, but I am afraid I will be made out to be dramatic, greedy, or the one creating tension. A is especially good at twisting things, and I worry she will make me look like the bad guy. I’m feeling hurt and unsure how to move forward. I would like to talk to them about it, but I don’t know how to do it without creating drama or being made to look unreasonable. I’m especially worried A might twist the story, and I’d like to keep the conversation open with B, who seems more understanding. What’s the best way to bring this up constructively? Is it too late to talk about rent fairness after 1.5 years? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. submitted by /u/Emotional-Swing-449 [link] [comments]

I (18f) had a hookup with a girl (17f) after knowing her for only a few days. She asked me out on a date, we fooled around, and it went further than I expected. I consented, but I don't think I really wanted it, as now it feels like my first time was wasted on someone I hardly know or like. Anyways Throughout that span of roughly 6 or 7 hours, I ended up with a ton of hickies. There's these two clusters(?) of them on both my inner thighs that are extremely painful and swollen, and they're sort of starting to get Black-ish and spread. It hurts to walk or move too much, and I have to walk graduation tomorrow morning, so I'm scared I'll mess up due to the pain. Is that level of bruising/pain normal for hickies? It really hurt in the moment, but I didn't expect so much swelling and stuff submitted by /u/Signal_Elderberry533 [link] [comments]

My (30M) gf (28F) and I have been together almost a year and a half and live together. We lived about an hour apart previously and agreed to get an apartment together about 6 months ago. I pay ~$1500 of the rent, she pays the remaining $800 plus groceries and I cover utilities, etc. so she can use the rest of her pay to cover her personal bills. While she was in school, I agreed to pay the full rent (December - April) until she graduated. After that passed, she made no offer to pay her portion of May rent and paid her portion of June, but had no money left so I sent her $400 back, filled her gas tank multiple times, covered groceries, etc. Last night, she asks if she can use her next paycheck to pay off her credit card to which I said sure. Later, she tells her mom that I told her she didn’t have to pay her portion of the rent this month (which was never said in our conversation, nor did she ask.) Her mom said to her that “You never wanna be in a relationship where you have to pay your share of the bills because then you're a roommate.” I don’t know how to feel about this and I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken advantage of and that her mom is reinforcing this idea that she shouldn’t have to financially contribute at all. According to the same conversation, “You give unconditional love and compassion you contribute to the household with acts of kindness. Taking care of the house be a good listener, companion” which is all necessary stuff in a relationship, but doesn’t mean I’m a pocket book. Can anyone share some outside perspective here? submitted by /u/DylanLH13 [link] [comments]

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