I am 9 months pregnant (34f), hormonal, emotional, feeling extremely neglected and my husband (34m) has not really been involved, yet he just told me how much he’s on this sub and how many women are in such abusive/terrible relationships. I would love input.

~this is more so venting~ A week ago I told my boyfriend that I can’t get off during sex. Before I could even further elaborate he immediately broke up with me and walked out. Some insight of how I am feeling with some background to the situation- I feel that when we do the deed the main focus is him I do all the things for him yet I usually get nothing in return. I did bring this up awhile ago and he started doing more for me but that faded after months. Anytime we get into arguments (which isnt often but when we do he blows up, tells me to go be with someone else) he disappears for weeks to months at a time and I’ve always tried to reconcile with him for him to ignore me and when he does come back around it’s either him going off on me saying I didn’t try hard enough even though I’ve texted and called. I’ve always stood my ground and told him to look and actually read the texts I’ve sent if he didn’t just delete them and look at his call history. Or he’ll come back around and act like nothing happened. Moral of the story I’m getting tired of always being blamed, not getting things in return, being told I didn’t try hard enough, getting ghosted for however long after a disagreement. This time around I decided I wasn’t reaching out I wasn’t going to try to fight for some who wouldn’t do the same for me. I just can’t stop thinking about this situation and I need to for my own sanity. How do I stop? submitted by /u/Ancient_House_8831 [link] [comments]

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months and about 3 months ago we started having fights constantly. I have this feeling he’s trying to control me, won’t let me have male followers on ig, i can’t drink alcohol because he rarely drinks, i can’t go out with my girlfriends to bars or parties, i only can see them if we go for a lunch or a movie date, so resentment has started building up from my side. When we met i told him that i value my friendships and individuality outside the relationship but he’s acting like i never said that. Last saturday we went to the beach and he spent the whole day criticising me, then we went to his house, slept together and when i decided to eat he said i was chewing loudly and that i sounded like an animal, he was very rude.. i had enough.. i told him i was gonna leave and i did. I decided not to contact him for a while because i felt very disrespected, and also i am the one that reaches out everytime we have an argument. Im tired of him stonewalling me. I can’t understand how can he go a whole week without speaking with me knowing i was really hurt when i left his house. Before leaving i told him “don’t forget that im the one that always tries to solve things when we argue”. I don’t know what to do at this point, i feel very disappointed and frustrated. TL;DR: i (28F) got into a fight with my boyfriend (36M) and we haven’t spoken for a week submitted by /u/Which_Buddy [link] [comments]

Blank account, because IRL friends know my reddit profile. For some context, I’ve never have been in a relationship or have any sexual experiences. This mostly may have to do with my upbringing, being homeschooled, with few friends until I hit 20. I wasn’t a loser, I had just been really focusing on my arts, and had gotten some really big opportunities come my way, but not a lot of friends, I never cared to try either. I was very content with myself. By the time I hit 23, everything had started to change massively, I made some friends that sparked a chain reaction into more friends, new accomplishments, etc. Now, I’m very socially confident, emotionally in-tune, kind, I care about doing the right thing, I’m very thoughtful, I have no judgment for the world, I get along with everyone. I don’t know how to say this, but it’s like I’m viewed as some mystical creature that people love. I’ve tested photos of myself on rating sites, and I get an above average score, I also get plenty of compliments on the street, from men and women. I don’t want to self praise this much, but I say to put it in perspective that my problem doesn’t seem to be with any of these things. I wouldn’t say I have a low libido, I would guess that it is very high. Some women seem to have been infatuated with me, but it always ends up with me sort of putting them in the friend zone, as I don’t feel like I have any sexual energy, or at least I’m bad at displaying it. I have a look that suggests I should be sexy. At clubs girls have pulled me in to dance with them, but ultimately you could almost just imagine me as a fun introspective gay guy lol. Am I interested in them? Yes, but I don’t pursue or make any moves. I’ve had dates that fizzle out for the same reason. I think maybe the root to the problem is that I value being respectful more than wanting to sexually connect with anyone, I prefer close bonds with people. I don’t truly believe they’re mutually exclusive, but I don’t know how to chase a sexual urge. I don’t necessarily need sex or a relationship, but I get more worried that as I age it will become extremely difficult for me to get a relationship in the future. So, loss aversion is my main dating motivation right now, which I don’t think helps my situation. I have an intuition that maybe I need a dating coach, or that maybe I need to just start being more forward sexually, but it feels kind of icky to me. I don’t really know what to do. Maybe you all have some insights or helpful antidotes. TLDR: Virgin. Nothing is wrong with me, I get opportunities, but don’t escalate. Either I don’t know how, or don’t have the motivation to turn a potential close friendship into a sexual one. submitted by /u/ThreeGreenPortals [link] [comments]

I'm 20M and am a virgin, even though I’ve had relationships. Lately I've been having a lot of thoughts about sex before and after marriage. I’m a pretty committed Christian. I know that traditionally, according to my religion I should wait, it's just lately I've been rethinking what my religion actually teaches about sexuality. And let’s be honest, my desire to have sex now has grown a lot lol. But on the other hand, even setting religion aside, I always feel like I wanna be able to offer that to my wife, the fact she'll be the first and only woman I sleep with. But on the other hand part of me just doesn’t want to wait that long. Part of me wants to go hook up tomorrow. So I honestly don’t know. I'm wondering, the guys that waited till marriage, how was it? Would you do it again? How do you feel about it? And on the other hand, if you don’t think waiting til marriage is wise, why? So I'm genuinely seeking advice from men that waited, as well as opinions from men who disagree with waiting. I’m open to any perspective. submitted by /u/Naive_Resolution4186 [link] [comments]

What made this experience THE BEST in your life? submitted by /u/Head_Baker6201 [link] [comments]

So as the title suggests. I’m 23 and recently met a girl through mutual connections. We’ve hit it off recently. She’s funny, sarcastic, we share similar values and financial goals. She’s 22 and has a 2 year old son. So here I ask, is it too early in life for that responsibility? I’m just not sure. I really enjoy her company. Has anyone as young as me made it work with a single mom? Thanks Gents. Needed to see the light. Couldn’t find anyone else discussing it, your incite is valuable. submitted by /u/Dexieboui [link] [comments]

So, this is my first time dating anyone before, so that’s not going to help. Basically, I’ve asked this girl out and she ended up agreeing to date. But I think there’s a big issue here, she doesn’t like to go anywhere. This means I can’t arrange a ‘date’ because she prefers to stay at home. Even her best friend had to convince her over and over again to try and go out, and she was only successful a handful of times. I don’t want to be THAT pushy with her, and force her to go out, but I feel like I don’t know what to do because (I know this is all new to me but) I think if were to hang out on a more one-on-one occasion, it would be great. So, yeah, I’m stumped. I just thought I’d leave it a while to see if she might change her mind, but I doubt it.. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. submitted by /u/Past_Procedure_6660 [link] [comments]

TLDR: parents offered us their old condo 2 hours away for a great price. My bf recieved a temp position at his job that will last another 3 months and he wants to release for a year. We would save $300 - $800/month if we take my parents offer. Bf isn't budging on moving and saving the money. If we don't take their offer on the condo, they will have it sold by September. Our lease ends in august. Both our jobs are transferable to the area. Advice? My bf (29M) received a temp position at his job that makes him happier but he makes less. It only lasts another 3 months before he's back at his regular position (sales at a major call center). He is able to transfer but may not be for the same position he just received. I (27F) work at a clinic that I could potentially transfer positions closer to my parents (2 hours away). Our lease ends in august and my parents offered us their extra condo for low cost rent. They're listing it for sale in September unless we want to rent it from them We would be lowering our rent from $2300 to potentially $1500/month. Before speaking to my parents, we were looking into a place that would be $2055 a month. To me, the savings on rent is a no brainer esp because it's in a very good area of the city. Both our jobs would be minutes away and I'd probably be happier (I hate the city I'm at now and I'm desperate to leave). Also their condo is in the same city as my school I really find this silly, but my bf is pretty much a complete no go on moving or even looking at other opportunities because he likes this temp position. I remind him it's only another 3 months and if we want the lowest rent possible we have to rent long term (12-16 months). After talking for awhile, it's clear that's just what he wants and he's not budging Our relationship is great and we've grown a lot together but it seems both of us are willing to split for wanting different things. I can't understand how he is willing to lose this opportunity and our relationship for a 3 month position but it's not fair for me to bash him on it. I'm between keeping my bf or more finances. Any advice or similar situations? submitted by /u/anxious-bitchious [link] [comments]

She is 30 but said she only has had sex with one guy and that’s because they were dating. That sex is very intimate for her. submitted by /u/hankqueensmustache [link] [comments]

My wife and I have been going through a difficult time over the past few months. She told me she’s felt unappreciated and disconnected, partly because of some choices I made, like changing jobs, which affected our finances briefly, and being more physically affectionate than she wanted during that time. I’ve been trying to address her concerns, but this week, things escalated in a way I wasn’t prepared for. She told me she wanted a divorce and moved her ex-husband into our home. They have three children together, and she reorganized our living space: their youngest is now sharing a room with her ex (formerly our bedroom), and I was moved to a separate room entirely. This all happened while I was at work. A few days later, I went through her phone, something I regret doing, but I discovered a long history of emotional conversations between her and her ex, starting around when she began distancing herself from me. They were discussing their past relationship, saying they loved each other, and planning for him to move back in. She had already started filling out divorce paperwork by early May. When I confronted her, we ended up having a serious talk. She explained that she never wanted to end her first marriage and that she did this for the kids so they didn’t have to grow up in a “broken family”. I understand where she is coming from being raised by a single mother and not knowing her father most of her life but I’m also from a “broken family” where I was abused and I believe that her going back and being in a relationship with him is not right because she is doing it for the wrong reasons and that would only hurt and confuse the children more. I understand the emotional weight behind that, but it’s still been very painful to process. Since then, her ex has left again. She’s been softer toward me and said she’s confused and hurting. She also said she would understand if I chose to leave. I’m still here and trying to find a way to move forward, because this relationship matters a lot to me. Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to navigate the aftermath of what happened. This isn’t the first time her ex has come back into the picture in a disruptive way. I want to move forward thoughtfully, but I’m unsure what that looks like from here. I’m looking for advice from others who’ve navigated a similar situation, how did you approach rebuilding trust, managing shared living spaces, or figuring out if the relationship was still viable? What steps helped you move forward? submitted by /u/ThrowRA_BrokenHearts [link] [comments]

I'm on Hinge and I'll be texting girls the most innocent things, and then they stop replying. It's so random. I promise I'm not saying anything rude, just trying to be light and keep the conversation engaging. It doesn't matter if I ask her out right away or if I try to get to know her a little beforehand, the result is the same. They just stop replying. It's starting to get in my head and making me feel like I'm doing something wrong. This app is driving me insane. submitted by /u/Enough-Locksmith-897 [link] [comments]

I live a pretty isolated life. Work from home, live with my parents, still paying student loans, mostly hobbies from home as well, or with sports that are almost entirely men. I was really shy growing up, so I was invisible to women in my teens and in college I had no clue what to do either. I've "tried" to date all through my 20s with dating apps, and it's failed to bring me a hookup nor a relationship. I've gone on a million first dates but nothing ever sticks. As much as I just wanna get laid, I would also like to find a girlfriend. This is a massive insecurity for me and before you ask, I'm in therapy. I want to be free from this hell before I'm 30. What can I do? submitted by /u/DevilFromDanteMayCry [link] [comments]

I’m 15f. Like if we’re watching a movie or something for example, I’ll snuggle up to him on the couch and lay with him. He’ll kiss me on the forehead and cheek. He tells me he loves me a lot and we hug each other all the time. I feel really loved by him. I feel like other people my age don’t really have as close of relationship like that with their dad (or at least some of my friends have told me that they don’t do this). Is this weird or uncommon, especially cuddling with your dad as a teenager? submitted by /u/Sweet-Flower1502 [link] [comments]

My son is 18M, he recently started dating a new girl [18F] from his school. They went on a date last week and he dropped her home afterwards. Her parents were in the front yard so he went to greet them. The dad asked his daughter how the date went and she said it went well. Then he replied "that's good, you better treat her well". My son said "yes of course". The dad said, "I have no doubt you will, but just in case there are any problems, I have a shotgun in the garage". My son got freaked out and got into his car and came home and told me what happened. About an hour later, the girl's mom called me and apologized for the "misunderstanding" and said that her husband said it "jokingly". I didn't say much and just thanked her and hung up. My son is a bit freaked out and doesn't know if he wants to keep seeing this girl. He is also a bit socially awkward and has difficulty making friends. I want to guide him but I'm not sure what to say. TL;DR My teenage son got a new girlfriend and her dad "jokingly" threatened him with a gun. submitted by /u/CostRains [link] [comments]

Update： Thank you again to everyone who shared their thoughts. After reading through the responses and reflecting on everything, I have started looking for a new place and plan to move out soon. What really pushed me to take action was something that happened recently. A’s mum came to stay for a while, and when she found out that A’s boyfriend had basically been living in the house too, she was furious. There was a physical fight. When B and I tried to break it up, A’s mum accidentally elbowed me and left a large bruise on my arm. She also broke part of the back door frame during the chaos. That was when I realised this living situation is not only financially unfair but also emotionally exhausting and chaotic. It made me ask myself why I am still here and helped me see it is time to leave. I still have not decided whether I will say anything directly to A and B after moving out. Right now I just want to focus on removing myself from this situation and giving myself some peace. Original： Hi all, I’m in a difficult situation and would really appreciate advice on how to approach it with as little conflict as possible. I (24F) have been living with two roommates, A (24F) and B (25F), in a 4-bedroom house in Australia for the past 1.5 years. A and I have been close since middle school, and when I first moved to Australia, she invited me to move in. She told me rent would be $400 per week. I trusted her and assumed I might be paying slightly more, maybe $50 extra, because I had what I thought was a private bathroom. After about six months of living together, the three of us became really close. We cooked together, hung out often, and supported each other through ups and downs. I genuinely thought we were living as equals and friends. Recently I found out the total rent is under $900 per week, and A and B each pay under $300 per week. I have unknowingly been covering nearly half the full rent the entire time. Here is the room situation: • Each of us has our own bedroom. • The fourth room, which has the only ensuite bathroom, is fully used by A and B as their shared wardrobe, vanity, and private bathroom. I never use it. • I use a separate bathroom located outside the main house, accessible only through the backyard. It leaks when it rains, attracts bugs, and also contains the washing machine. • I furnished my bedroom myself. A and B provided second-hand furniture in shared spaces like the living room. The house is owned by a family friend of B’s, and according to them, the rent has stayed “low” because of that connection. A used this as justification for why I should be paying more, claiming I was already getting a good deal. When I brought up the rent difference, B suggested we start splitting things more evenly. A rejected that idea, saying the discount and their furniture contributions made it fair. They eventually reduced my rent to $330 per week, but by that point I had already overpaid by around $6000. Now I feel hurt and taken advantage of. I trusted A, and thought we were friends. I would still like to talk with B calmly because she seems more reasonable, but I honestly do not want to stay friends with A anymore. I want to bring this up and ask for fairness or partial repayment, but I am afraid I will be made out to be dramatic, greedy, or the one creating tension. A is especially good at twisting things, and I worry she will make me look like the bad guy. I’m feeling hurt and unsure how to move forward. I would like to talk to them about it, but I don’t know how to do it without creating drama or being made to look unreasonable. I’m especially worried A might twist the story, and I’d like to keep the conversation open with B, who seems more understanding. What’s the best way to bring this up constructively? Is it too late to talk about rent fairness after 1.5 years? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. submitted by /u/Emotional-Swing-449 [link] [comments]

I (18f) had a hookup with a girl (17f) after knowing her for only a few days. She asked me out on a date, we fooled around, and it went further than I expected. I consented, but I don't think I really wanted it, as now it feels like my first time was wasted on someone I hardly know or like. Anyways Throughout that span of roughly 6 or 7 hours, I ended up with a ton of hickies. There's these two clusters(?) of them on both my inner thighs that are extremely painful and swollen, and they're sort of starting to get Black-ish and spread. It hurts to walk or move too much, and I have to walk graduation tomorrow morning, so I'm scared I'll mess up due to the pain. Is that level of bruising/pain normal for hickies? It really hurt in the moment, but I didn't expect so much swelling and stuff submitted by /u/Signal_Elderberry533 [link] [comments]

My (30M) gf (28F) and I have been together almost a year and a half and live together. We lived about an hour apart previously and agreed to get an apartment together about 6 months ago. I pay ~$1500 of the rent, she pays the remaining $800 plus groceries and I cover utilities, etc. so she can use the rest of her pay to cover her personal bills. While she was in school, I agreed to pay the full rent (December - April) until she graduated. After that passed, she made no offer to pay her portion of May rent and paid her portion of June, but had no money left so I sent her $400 back, filled her gas tank multiple times, covered groceries, etc. Last night, she asks if she can use her next paycheck to pay off her credit card to which I said sure. Later, she tells her mom that I told her she didn’t have to pay her portion of the rent this month (which was never said in our conversation, nor did she ask.) Her mom said to her that “You never wanna be in a relationship where you have to pay your share of the bills because then you're a roommate.” I don’t know how to feel about this and I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken advantage of and that her mom is reinforcing this idea that she shouldn’t have to financially contribute at all. According to the same conversation, “You give unconditional love and compassion you contribute to the household with acts of kindness. Taking care of the house be a good listener, companion” which is all necessary stuff in a relationship, but doesn’t mean I’m a pocket book. Can anyone share some outside perspective here? submitted by /u/DylanLH13 [link] [comments]

I initially was not bothered by my SO having his ex-fwbs on IG but its beginning to get under my skin.(Recently found out he had bought his fwb a gift and has never bought me a gift, we are currently