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I'm on Hinge and I'll be texting girls the most innocent things, and then they stop replying. It's so random. I promise I'm not saying anything rude, just trying to be light and keep the conversation engaging. It doesn't matter if I ask her out right away or if I try to get to know her a little beforehand, the result is the same. They just stop replying. It's starting to get in my head and making me feel like I'm doing something wrong. This app is driving me insane. submitted by /u/Enough-Locksmith-897 [link] [comments]

I live a pretty isolated life. Work from home, live with my parents, still paying student loans, mostly hobbies from home as well, or with sports that are almost entirely men. I was really shy growing up, so I was invisible to women in my teens and in college I had no clue what to do either. I've "tried" to date all through my 20s with dating apps, and it's failed to bring me a hookup nor a relationship. I've gone on a million first dates but nothing ever sticks. As much as I just wanna get laid, I would also like to find a girlfriend. This is a massive insecurity for me and before you ask, I'm in therapy. I want to be free from this hell before I'm 30. What can I do? submitted by /u/DevilFromDanteMayCry [link] [comments]

I’m 15f. Like if we’re watching a movie or something for example, I’ll snuggle up to him on the couch and lay with him. He’ll kiss me on the forehead and cheek. He tells me he loves me a lot and we hug each other all the time. I feel really loved by him. I feel like other people my age don’t really have as close of relationship like that with their dad (or at least some of my friends have told me that they don’t do this). Is this weird or uncommon, especially cuddling with your dad as a teenager? submitted by /u/Sweet-Flower1502 [link] [comments]

My son is 18M, he recently started dating a new girl [18F] from his school. They went on a date last week and he dropped her home afterwards. Her parents were in the front yard so he went to greet them. The dad asked his daughter how the date went and she said it went well. Then he replied "that's good, you better treat her well". My son said "yes of course". The dad said, "I have no doubt you will, but just in case there are any problems, I have a shotgun in the garage". My son got freaked out and got into his car and came home and told me what happened. About an hour later, the girl's mom called me and apologized for the "misunderstanding" and said that her husband said it "jokingly". I didn't say much and just thanked her and hung up. My son is a bit freaked out and doesn't know if he wants to keep seeing this girl. He is also a bit socially awkward and has difficulty making friends. I want to guide him but I'm not sure what to say. TL;DR My teenage son got a new girlfriend and her dad "jokingly" threatened him with a gun. submitted by /u/CostRains [link] [comments]

Update： Thank you again to everyone who shared their thoughts. After reading through the responses and reflecting on everything, I have started looking for a new place and plan to move out soon. What really pushed me to take action was something that happened recently. A’s mum came to stay for a while, and when she found out that A’s boyfriend had basically been living in the house too, she was furious. There was a physical fight. When B and I tried to break it up, A’s mum accidentally elbowed me and left a large bruise on my arm. She also broke part of the back door frame during the chaos. That was when I realised this living situation is not only financially unfair but also emotionally exhausting and chaotic. It made me ask myself why I am still here and helped me see it is time to leave. I still have not decided whether I will say anything directly to A and B after moving out. Right now I just want to focus on removing myself from this situation and giving myself some peace. Original： Hi all, I’m in a difficult situation and would really appreciate advice on how to approach it with as little conflict as possible. I (24F) have been living with two roommates, A (24F) and B (25F), in a 4-bedroom house in Australia for the past 1.5 years. A and I have been close since middle school, and when I first moved to Australia, she invited me to move in. She told me rent would be $400 per week. I trusted her and assumed I might be paying slightly more, maybe $50 extra, because I had what I thought was a private bathroom. After about six months of living together, the three of us became really close. We cooked together, hung out often, and supported each other through ups and downs. I genuinely thought we were living as equals and friends. Recently I found out the total rent is under $900 per week, and A and B each pay under $300 per week. I have unknowingly been covering nearly half the full rent the entire time. Here is the room situation: • Each of us has our own bedroom. • The fourth room, which has the only ensuite bathroom, is fully used by A and B as their shared wardrobe, vanity, and private bathroom. I never use it. • I use a separate bathroom located outside the main house, accessible only through the backyard. It leaks when it rains, attracts bugs, and also contains the washing machine. • I furnished my bedroom myself. A and B provided second-hand furniture in shared spaces like the living room. The house is owned by a family friend of B’s, and according to them, the rent has stayed “low” because of that connection. A used this as justification for why I should be paying more, claiming I was already getting a good deal. When I brought up the rent difference, B suggested we start splitting things more evenly. A rejected that idea, saying the discount and their furniture contributions made it fair. They eventually reduced my rent to $330 per week, but by that point I had already overpaid by around $6000. Now I feel hurt and taken advantage of. I trusted A, and thought we were friends. I would still like to talk with B calmly because she seems more reasonable, but I honestly do not want to stay friends with A anymore. I want to bring this up and ask for fairness or partial repayment, but I am afraid I will be made out to be dramatic, greedy, or the one creating tension. A is especially good at twisting things, and I worry she will make me look like the bad guy. I’m feeling hurt and unsure how to move forward. I would like to talk to them about it, but I don’t know how to do it without creating drama or being made to look unreasonable. I’m especially worried A might twist the story, and I’d like to keep the conversation open with B, who seems more understanding. What’s the best way to bring this up constructively? Is it too late to talk about rent fairness after 1.5 years? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. submitted by /u/Emotional-Swing-449 [link] [comments]

I (18f) had a hookup with a girl (17f) after knowing her for only a few days. She asked me out on a date, we fooled around, and it went further than I expected. I consented, but I don't think I really wanted it, as now it feels like my first time was wasted on someone I hardly know or like. Anyways Throughout that span of roughly 6 or 7 hours, I ended up with a ton of hickies. There's these two clusters(?) of them on both my inner thighs that are extremely painful and swollen, and they're sort of starting to get Black-ish and spread. It hurts to walk or move too much, and I have to walk graduation tomorrow morning, so I'm scared I'll mess up due to the pain. Is that level of bruising/pain normal for hickies? It really hurt in the moment, but I didn't expect so much swelling and stuff submitted by /u/Signal_Elderberry533 [link] [comments]

My (30M) gf (28F) and I have been together almost a year and a half and live together. We lived about an hour apart previously and agreed to get an apartment together about 6 months ago. I pay ~$1500 of the rent, she pays the remaining $800 plus groceries and I cover utilities, etc. so she can use the rest of her pay to cover her personal bills. While she was in school, I agreed to pay the full rent (December - April) until she graduated. After that passed, she made no offer to pay her portion of May rent and paid her portion of June, but had no money left so I sent her $400 back, filled her gas tank multiple times, covered groceries, etc. Last night, she asks if she can use her next paycheck to pay off her credit card to which I said sure. Later, she tells her mom that I told her she didn’t have to pay her portion of the rent this month (which was never said in our conversation, nor did she ask.) Her mom said to her that “You never wanna be in a relationship where you have to pay your share of the bills because then you're a roommate.” I don’t know how to feel about this and I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken advantage of and that her mom is reinforcing this idea that she shouldn’t have to financially contribute at all. According to the same conversation, “You give unconditional love and compassion you contribute to the household with acts of kindness. Taking care of the house be a good listener, companion” which is all necessary stuff in a relationship, but doesn’t mean I’m a pocket book. Can anyone share some outside perspective here? submitted by /u/DylanLH13 [link] [comments]

I initially was not bothered by my SO having his ex-fwbs on IG but its beginning to get under my skin.(Recently found out he had bought his fwb a gift and has never bought me a gift, we are currently

So my question is. If a man finds a woman in distress/ struggle. Like her car broke down or she has a technical problem that you as a man can help/ fix and she will be appreciative of your help. Do u

I don’t know where to start, I’m just coming out of shock from yesterday night when I confronted her and she confessed to it. I got to know this because the gf of guy with whom she cheated reached

As a woman who is currently dating, I’m not always are of the little things that determine attraction when it comes to a man’s interest in woman. I’m always going to be myself of course, but it�

Like literally nobody. No family, no friends and no girlfriend. What do you do in this situation? submitted by /u/No_Title_615 [link] [comments]

Hey everyone, I need some guidance/ tips. I recently found out my girlfriend is pregnant. We’re both happy and are still processing the news. Has anyone experienced having a pregnancy but are not le

Okay so I (female 18) have a coordination disorder. My bf (23 male) always assumed I’m just clumsy but he started to get frustrated when I’d accidentally spill things, so I told him. I want to cla

My boyfriend (of 5 years) and I live together (going on 3 years now). We work opposite schedules, so a lot of the time he’s asleep when I’m awake and vice versa. If he’s awake when I’m leaving

I'm turning (23F) in less than an hour, and I'm sitting alone while everyone is asleep. (Our bday is one day after another) My (23M)boyfriend's birthday was yesterday. I went all out planned an MMA-th

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/Nx2tcYDeFw Thank you to everyone who reached out. It helped give me (27M) much-needed perspective. I wanted to give an update. I wanted a fuller picture before making a decision on anything with my fiancée (29F). I knew her friends/bridesmaids would be a lost cause. I get along with them, but they're more of my fiancée's friends, and their group runs deep. They weren't going to talk at the expense of my fiancée. I asked Joss (29F) for more info and for evidence to her claims about my fiancée hooking up with someone on their girls' trip. She said my fiancée avoided talking about that particular trip, especially over text. Most of their arguments were in person, but she showed me texts from shortly after the trip where my fiancée confirmed hooking up with the guy. She texted how "it's in her rearview mirror" and she "doesn't need a lecture about the past. She's focusing on the future." I knew the possibility, and my fiancée already confessed to seeing other guys during our break, but idk seeing those texts made it real in a way it wasn't before. In the texts, she expressed regret, but it didn't make me feel better. I confronted my fiancée and I knew immediately by the look on her face. She came clean on everything. She thought Joss deleted the texts. Around the break, we were having serious talks about marriage. She started worrying she was missing out on stuff her single friends were engaging in. During the break, she sought validation from other guys and fooled around with that guy on the girls' trip. In her own words, she had a temporary high when he chased her but felt worse about herself post-hookup. She claims the break showed her what was important and that she wasn't missing out on anything. She was reassured we were right for each other. I hardly said anything to her. I mostly just listened. I was too numb for much else. She kept asking me to say something, but what was there for me to say? I felt her actions spoke enough for us both. She kept apologizing for stepping out. When I asked her why she wasn't upfront with me, she said she didn't want to lose me over her biggest mistake. Her position that Joss isn't being noble hasn't changed. I told her Joss's motive doesn't matter; the truth is the truth. She asked if I could find it in myself to move past this. She said she loves me and she's fully committed. I couldn't tell her what she wanted. I said it was best the wedding be put off and I needed space to sort my feelings. She was against postponing and proclaimed this didn't have to define us, and she's still the same woman I wanted to marry. She asked me not to give up on us. But the same way her mind was made about the break, my mind was made on postponing. It wasn't a choice. It wasn't so much a fight, more putting everything out there. She cried a lot. She rarely cries. It felt wrong to leave her crying. My first instinct was to comfort her, but I was too broken to fake it. I've been hurt before, but she hurt me in a way only she could. I know postponing the wedding is for the best. The reason why I didn't call it off entirely is because I'm way too much in my emotions right now. Hurt, anger, sadness, and somehow numbness. At all possible, I try to avoid making decisions lost in emotion. I need to clear my head. I was so sure of my course and our relationship. My fiancée was my partner in every sense. She was who I wanted to make a life with. Sometimes she'd act so superior about our relationship compared to those of her friends. I feel so stupid. She says she's still the same person I love. But the fact is she had a secret life I knew nothing about. I'm trying my best to understand that, but I'm at a complete loss. I'm not sure if I can move past this. All the guests have been informed of the postponement. Some questioned why, but I've been vague. I'm just too embarrassed. I feel bad for the guests too. Some with limited means already booked flights and hotels and took time off work for our wedding. That's how far we were in the homestretch. In some ways it doesn't feel like my life. We were just together, wedding planning and discussing the honeymoon. The honeymoon was a surprise destination for her, someplace she's always wanted to visit. Now we're here. Idk where to go or what the future holds. Thanks to everyone again for the support. It means a lot. TL;DR An update for: My fiancée's and my relationship has blown up after she had a bad falling out with her Maid of Honor who told me not only did my fiancée see other guys while we were on a break, but she also hooked up with someone on their girls' trip. My fiancée confessed to seeing other guys on the break but denies hooking up with anyone. She's accusing her friend of trying to sabotage our relationship. We fought, and I told her I needed space. Ever since, she's been pouring on so much affection. We're in the middle of wedding planning, and now this mess. I'm lost and questioning everything. Idk what to believe anymore. How do I move forward for myself and my relationship? submitted by /u/ThrowRALongshotFray [link] [comments]

So my husband and I have been married 10 years and have an 8 year old daughter, 4 year old son. He sometimes works from home snd usually in the kitchen if the kids are out. He did this earlier in the week and he left his laptop on the kitchen bench then went to play outside with the kids. I was cooking snd thougut I would just use his laptop for quickness to search for a recipe when a message from a colleague popped up on slack. She was thanking him for the coffee the other day. He hadn’t mentioned this to me and I’m fairly laid back about him grabbing coffee with colleagues make or female so didn’t think much. But seeing more I became concerned, they’ve been messaging ALOT- like multiple times a day, not work related. And I realised they had multiple 121 meet ups- walks, coffees, lunches whilst at work. He’s never mentioned any of these. They’ve put a lot of effort into planning these, blocking out diaries. talking about how excited the both are to meet up. I was gutted as I thought we had the type of marriage he would at least keep me updated on what he’s doing, who he’s with. It was horrible reading their messages- he doesn’t usually text or message much or really say much in texts- he’s one of those yeh/ok/ type of people. But with her he’s been writing long messages- and she’s been very flirty and playful- complimenting him- lots of flirty jokes etc. She’s about 10 years younger than me…I was so mad but haven’t confronted him yet as ive been getting my head around it all. I’m going to this weekend but just after some advice TL:DR- husband has been on about 5 work dates with a younger female colleague, daily messaging, very playful and flirty [link] [comments]