How do you feel about your partner making your room “girly”?

I met a girl at my university about a month ago. We talked about an org i want to start going to in the fall (she’s in this org). She asked me for my Instagram and said if I ever want to study to let her know. Well, summer came soon after and I live far away in another city from May - August. We had brief conversation over text, and I recently asked her about some school related stuff. However, I don’t really know if I should hit her up during summer to “maintain interest”, or just wait a few months until uni starts up again. Any advice? submitted by /u/h00dclassics [link] [comments]

So, I feel fine. I don’t feel sick, but my nose is blocked which I know is not hot. It’s not crazy bad, infact if you didn’t know me you might not even know. But with this sort of thing, I don’t want to get there only to be sniffing like crazy and dripping everywhere. I can’t miss this date. We’ve been a few so far, and it’s off a great start. I’m going home for 3 weeks the next day, hence why I can’t miss it. I also want to tell her that im really enjoying getting to know her, and that im into her when i see her so she knows. I want to keep this hot start going, and I’m afraid canceling, without being to see her for an ages will risk it fading. Anyone have a temporary fix, remedy or something that will save me for a night? submitted by /u/Valuable_Lychee_204 [link] [comments]

I (27f) have been with my fiancé (29m) for over 4 years now. We are supposed to get married in less than a week. I’m scared I’m making a mistake. I had no doubts about marrying him until November of last year. He is an only child and VERY close with his parents. His mom began buying wedding decorations without asking us. I privately asked him if he could tell his mom to okay decorations with us before buying anything. It turned into a huge blowout fight with him accusing me of taking the wind out of his parents sails for our wedding. Over the summer, his mom invited 25+ of her friends, family, and his dad’s friends that I’ve never met before. He did not stand up to her, because he “hated seeing her upset.” I realized his reaction toward me asking for his mom to confirm decorations with us, over my expressed discomfort at strangers being at our wedding, was vastly different. He picked up playing a new sport in January, something he’d always wanted to do but never could as a child. I have always been very vocal about my hatred of sports, but told him I’d support him if this is what he wanted. He became very upset when I had no interest in learning to play his sport with him, and that I did not care for watching it on TV. Every conversation about his sport now starts with him saying “I wish you liked _.” Or “I know you don’t care about ___, but.” Which I have told him to stop as he’s making me feel guilty for not having any interest in something he’s known for years is not my thing. I am big into running; he is not. I do not expect him to pick up my hobby as I know it’s not his thing, and am fine with keeping it separate. It’s frustrating he doesn’t see his sport the same way. He joined a pickup league and told me he would not be playing any games within 1 month of our wedding so he doesn’t get hurt. I told him many times, weeks in advance, I had plans with my friend. A few days before he realized my plans were on the night of his fame- a game he told me he would not be playing as it was within a month of our wedding. He’d decided to play last minute and expected me to cancel plans with my friend to go. He was very disappointed when I wouldn’t and brought it up frequently. He also told me he plans to play a game the day after our wedding. His schedule is very demanding and he works 24hr shifts, multiple days a week. When he was working a lot for our wedding, it wasn’t uncommon for me to see him once every 4-5 days. On our only day off together a few months ago, he said he was going to play a game in his league. I asked if he could plan a date for us the following week, if he was choosing to go to a game instead of doing something the two of us could do together. He got extremely angry and kept bringing it up. I then began realizing his enthusiasm and interest for his sport was way more than our relationship. 3 weeks before our wedding, my fiancé told me he intends on moving to a state 18 hours away and expected me to go with him. I told him I don’t have any interest in moving across states and that was never our plan. He has since made several attempts in changing my mind to move, despite me telling him multiple times I’m completely overwhelmed with wedding planning and don’t want to discuss moving across the country right now. He then gave me an ultimatum: either we could stay in the same house until we retire, or buy a new house across the country. The current house we live in, I have been very vocal about for about 3 years that I severely dislike and would like to move out ASAP. It’s an unsafe neighborhood, I’m not able to walk our dogs by myself, it’s far away from work, and the roads aren’t maintained in the winter making it extremely dangerous for me to travel to and from work. He is aware of my aversion to where we live and has told me many times leading up to this that he wants me to feel safe and that he would prioritize us moving. I told him a few days ago I would not stay at this house for another 20+ years, and I would not be leaving our state. He said if we move, he expects me to split everything with him 50/50 and that was the only circumstance in which we would stay. He pays for utilities. I have a car payment, insurance, and a phone bill. His parents pay all of that for him. I also pay for all of our groceries every single week. We split the mortgage. He makes more money than I do, and does not have as many expenses. He will not budge on this. There has been so much more leading up to this, but this has been the worst of everything leading up to our wedding. I am extremely afraid of marrying him and being bullied into moving across states, or screwing myself over financially. Everything in our wedding is paid off. No refunds as we’re so close to the date. At least $30,000 gone if I back out now. Not to mention, I have no where to go. I live in the house he bought before we started dating and my name isn’t attached to anything. None of my friends are in living situations where I could move in with them, especially because I refuse to give up my dog. My family isn’t in any condition to take me in either. I have no idea what to do. I feel so lost. I don’t know where to go from here. The other part of this is, we work together at the same department and I am certain that if I end things now he will make my life here miserable and I’ll be forced to leave. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Advice that is simply “run” or “leave him” with no additional advice is not super helpful as I don’t have a way to. submitted by /u/Optimal-Mushroom-421 [link] [comments]

Typed out a stupidly long detailed explanation of a particular selection, then deleted it and now am going to try and just generalize my question as much as possible. How do you deal with the fundamental tension between needing to discuss the particular logistics about sex with someone who has HSV type 2 and the more you discuss it before you have it, the less sexy it is? submitted by /u/Lolzerzmao [link] [comments]

We went on vacation to a theme park a few months ago, things were great till after the second night at the park. I was exhausted, I told him I just wanted to sleep and not be touched because I was just exhausted and the day was hot and overwhelming. He took it in the worst way and threw a literal tantrum. He pouted and sulked and kept trying to wake me up. He wouldn’t stop saying there was something I wasn’t telling him was wrong. He even tried to sleep in the bathroom. He then pouted the entire next day in the theme park. I tried to get over it and move forward. Then on our road trip after the park to Vegas he told me to pick the music. He then read into the music I played and turned it off saying I was playing negative music. We get back and a few days later he lies about an ex and who it is, he claims they were just friends and later tells me he lied. A week after that he then throws another tantrum when I tell him I needed some alone time. Same thing. He flips out saying I’m not telling him what’s wrong. Despite me very clearly expressing it’s not him I just need some alone time. This behavior has happened multiple times. A week ago he told me he was confident it would happen again. We got tickets to a concert and all goes well during the show. We drink a bit. We get home and sit on the couch and I feel nauseous and tell him I don’t feel good and want to lay down and try to sleep. He took that personally and has another meltdown. I ask to please not be touched as I feel very nauseous. He wouldn’t stop touching me. I kept begging him to please stop. He storms out for about 5 minutes and then back in to ask for hugs and I tell him I don’t feel comfortable hugging him after he wouldn’t listen to me when I said no. He then forces himself on me and hugs me anyway. Even though while he does it I’m telling him please stop. I have kept my distance for the past week because I don’t feel safe if I’m being honest. He keeps claiming to be better now after his one therapy session. But I don’t know how to proceed. We got married fast in our relationship, I feel like I was majorly love bombed and now that we are married everything he is is coming out. submitted by /u/Princess-bunny [link] [comments]

I usually don’t come to Reddit for advice but truth be told I want some advice from so non biased people. My gf went to Canada for a getaway vacation with some friends and her brother. Not long into the trip she came down with a horrible UTI and was bed ridden for the first few days. Context here, she’s had a kidney transplant and when something like this gets out of hand it can make things extremely difficult for someone in her shoes. I’ve talked with her a little and convinced her to go to the hospital based off symptoms not getting better. I’m grateful she asked her brother to take her and even more grateful that she’s on the road to getting this thing sorted out. What I’m not ok with is being absolutely helpless and anxious as to not being able to be by her side. I understand that the situation is completely out of my control, but feel horrible. I’m normally not someone that sits by my phone and waits for updates but I keep finding myself checking my phone and praying I hear from her or her brother. Side issue, I did ask her brother to keep me informed. Not once during the evening nor the morning after did I receive any information about her being admitted. The only information I did get was that she had a kidney infection. Whilst all this is happening I see that he’s out continuing his vacation like nothings wrong. I wasn’t around whilst she went through her transplant but I know he was and to brush something like this off bothers me. I know I don’t have all the details but based off of assumption it seems like he doesn’t care. I’d hate to point any fingers as like I said, I’m unsure of anything. I guess the advice I’m looking for really comes down to how I go about keeping in contact without coming off as too overbearing and needy for any new developments. The last thing I want is for her to think I don’t care. Another thing I don’t want is for her to worry about me while she has all of this going on. I’ve called once 3 days in a row and sent maybe 5 texts. I know she’s weak and in pain so I absolutely don’t expect anything more. I just want to know how to love her better in a moment like this but you don’t really think about something like this until it happens. At the end of the day I just want to know she’s alright and it’s frustrating that the one outlet I thought I’d have in this situation left out some VERY crucial information. If you read all of this and give any feedback just know I really appreciate it. submitted by /u/Over_Revolution_4303 [link] [comments]

I just learned that the girl I was working with and have been basically flirting back and forth with has a boyfriend. I no longer know what to say, I’ve been told she had a rather flirty personality so she’s probably just being nice, and admittedly I do have problems with differentiating Romantic and Platonic talking. So I don’t know if she is actually flirting or just being nice. Honestly as a not really good looking guy, I think she is just being nice but I do really like this girl. So, I don’t know what to do submitted by /u/Griffin_Gm [link] [comments]

Feeling emotional right now and not sure what kind of response I’ll get. But hey I’m on reddit, I’ll take it like a big girl or delete the post if shit hits the fan. I’m genuinely confused about men’s perspectives of sex and women and what standards women should hold men to. You got men that say women who have sex are toxic, rebellious and wild and do not deserve redemption if they want to change bc they don’t take their standards seriously. Then you got men that say putting sex on hold is unnecessary (I don’t mean only waiting for marriage) and body counts don’t matter as long as there is mutual interest and respect. Or if the guy likes you or not you should just take the risk of getting your heart broken if he ghost you the night after just like a guy is risking his resources just to date a woman. I understand listening to men for insight but who am I suppose to believe bc I feel like I’ve tried everything. I’m at a point where I genuinely don’t know what mutual interest looks like. The men I like never want me and the men that want me I just see as a friend. There’s this guy I knew who would have been the type of person I’d go for but I just couldn’t feel any romantic interest and it saddened me trying to give a rational reason to feel interested. I thought maybe I was being shallow and just needed to open up and give him a chance but I couldn’t. But then when I’m with a guy I like, I try to bite my tongue and try not coming off as desperate if he doesn’t call me, respond to messages right away or idk is cheap on dates (idk women are told it’s a red flag and still not sure if it’s true or not but I can’t help but notice a pattern myself). And I tend to question that waiting for sex isn’t important as long as I think the situation is going well. But now looking back, I was being somewhat manipulated and I knew to a degree but didn’t want it to be true. I rarely meet men I’m interested in so I tend to have a habit of wanting to hold on to them for dear life knowing I won’t find anyone else for another long while. I’ve never been quick to fall in love. Didn’t matter how attractive he was. I rarely have celeb crushes. I’m also wondering even if I decide to raise my standards and not make the same choices I’ve made in the past, do I deserve another chance in the dating market or am I too damaged? I don’t think I’ve become jaded, just confused how I should date and what I should give a pass. I also need to accept face my feelings of not feeling desirable, good enough for relationships and taking whatever comes my way just because I like someone. It’s done me no good and I’ve grown anxious from it. I’m not bitter about men, just not sure which men I should listen to. I want men to listen to women’s needs so why not listen to men you know? Like how long do I have to wait till I find a mutual connection? Feels like I won’t find anyone till I’m 90. Like where do you find men to like that actually want to date you? And how will I know if he’s putting in the appropriate amount of effort because one thing about me, I’m going to bring my dish to the table. I’ll always express genuine care and interest and it hurts when it’s not reciprocated. submitted by /u/Waxflower8 [link] [comments]

First of all, I don't live in an English speaking country so I may make some spelling and meaning mistakes, thanks for reading.18 I am 18 years old, I am preparing for the university exam in my country, I took it once but I was not successful (This exam is held once a year in my country.) However, I wanted to try again, my situation was good during the year. (I am preparing to enter the medical faculty.) But for the last 2 months, I have collapsed psychologically, both my studies have worsened and I have gained a lot of weight. (271lbs) Since I have been studying for this exam for 2 years, I have restricted my social life a lot, I had an average physique before preparing for the exam, I quit sports to prepare for the exam, I was normally social in high school, but I never had a girlfriend, and when I added these 2 years on top of it, I was completely overwhelmed. While my peers were traveling and having fun, I spent the best years of my life, I think I'm wasting my youth. I used to see myself as self-confident, competitive, brave, masculine, but I don't see myself like that anymore. I live with my family, although they are understanding, I am very ashamed of them, after all, they spend money in this process. Finally, as an 18-year-old (I will be 19 in October.) I feel lame, depressed and insignificant, I am in a really bad situation, I want to sleep and not wake up. Also, there are 13 days left for my exam and I don't seem to be able to score what I want. How can I get out of this bad situation I am in and become a strong man again? Or am I late in life? submitted by /u/Specific-Breath4892 [link] [comments]

Hi! It’s my first time here and I wanted to ask a question. So yesterday, on the last day of school I had my first kiss with my boyfriend, it was a short but sweet peck on the lips and my hands were extremely shaky after.. I just wanted to know if that was like normal and maybe hear from other people’s first kiss too! submitted by /u/No-Macaroon9250 [link] [comments]

I had posted about a situation a while back. Before we dated, my now ex put all these standards on me. One was losing weight. I didn’t listen to you guys. I lost the weight and kept seeing him. Well I ended up pregnant and he convinced me to have an abortion. I still kept losing weight. Lost 30lbs but even then that wasn’t enough. He ended cheating on me. Last night was rough for me. I dwelled in my feelings and felt so sad mainly about the abortion. It’s been close to two months now and I’m still thinking about him. How do I move forward? I have fallen into a deep depression and can barely shower or go to work. submitted by /u/PurplePurple_1 [link] [comments]

My boyfriend (22m) and I (23f) are in a long distance relationship, we play video games and watch movies together almost every day when we have free time. We also have a lot of online friends that we have met through video games and are very close with. So, tonight I told my boyfriend that I will be watching a movie and he told me to wait for him because he wants to join and I wait for him for an hour, but once he joined my call he invited our two other close friends and said that we can all hang out together. I don’t mind if they join at all, we watch things together very often but tonight I wanted to watch a movie either by myself or with my boyfriend. Those two friends say they don’t want to watch a movie and would rather play a couple online games or watch a tv show for like an hour, but they don’t mind leaving and doing that by themselves since my boyfriend and I already had plans to watch a movie. My boyfriend says that he will join them to watch a tv show instead of watching a movie with me because he really wanted to watch that specific show. So I leave the call and I’m obviously unhappy, he made me wait for an hour and then ditched me for our friends even though they said they can watch that show later together. So I text my boyfriend saying: Me - Please tell me next time if you decide to alter our plans, I wouldn’t have waited for you if I’d known you’ve invited our friends to do something else. I would’ve started watching a movie by now. Him - They messaged me and I thought we could watch something together. Me - Idm that you want to watch a show with them I just didn’t want to wait almost an hour for you and then plans change and now I’m watching a movie by myself. Him - I didn’t plan to watch a show I wanted us to watch a movie together, but they didn’t realise the time. That’s all. Me - Okay, but they did text you and you made two different plans with both them and me at the same time so I’m just asking you next time to tell me. Like I don’t care, I just wasted an hour waiting around. Him - Well, no I had the plan in mind that we’d watch a movie and I even told them that I wanted to watch a movie, and u weren’t just sat waiting around for a hour, u were playing sims? And u seemed in no rush, I know ur in a bad mood but this is literally nothing. Me - Okay but you still changed your plans for our friends and what does sims have to do with this? I was only on it cuz I was waiting for you and it is nothing yh, but I’m just asking to be informed next time. Him - Alright. Me - Cuz I just got my hopes up cuz you said you’ll join and now you’re not so it kinda sucks so just tell me next time pls ty. Him - Okay. Me - You’re not even going to apologize or anything? Alright goodnight love you. Him - I wanted you to stay u were the one who left. And I wasn’t the one who changed plans it was our friends. I’m sorry you’re in a bad mood but ur just making this out of nothing. Me - I was in a good mood after playing valorant and after you said you’ll join me for a movie but you did this and it wasn’t our friends who changed our plans or did anything, you’re the one who ditched me so don’t put blame on them. I just wanted you to apologize for making me wait around for an hour and then ditching me. Of course I’m going to be hurt if you do that. Him - I’m sorry I made you wait, but again I had no idea they wouldn’t want to watch a movie. Me - Okay? I had no idea anyone else would be joining, I thought it would be just you and me. Would you be happy if I ditched you to hang out with someone else after telling you I’d hang out with you? No. Him - Well no cause if u offered to me to do something with u and them id just do it. Especially in this case. Me- Right, ok. Him - I’m sorry for making u wait but this becoming a bigger deal than it needs to be. Me - You’re sorry for making me wait but not for ditching me, to you it’s not a big deal but to me it’s just rude. I cba trying to make you understand so have a fun time, I’ll talk to you tomorrow. Him - Goodnight I love you. End of text messages. To me it just feels like he’s refusing to take accountability for wasting my time and bringing my hopes up while also blaming our friends for it. submitted by /u/Ok_Employer_3186 [link] [comments]

We haven't been together long, just six months. I've realized that we aren't compatible. I was giving him a lot of grace for being "behind," in life (not having a license/car, no credit, being super underemployed) since he was getting sober. But I've realized a lot of things won't get better. He frankly has a very childish view of how finances and life works. And before you ask, NO, I'm not looking for a man with money. I just want to be on the same level with my partner and be able to talk to them about things like insurance with explaining everything... Here's the problem. He has a TBI (I suspect this is the source of a lot of these issues tbh). He's been having seizures lately due to stress in meeting rent. I've tried to help him (ie don't spend money on fast food, go to food banks, set aside money each paycheck for rent...nothing works). He won't even try to find another job because he likes the one he has. I know I can't help him with this. I know he really likes me and I'm only going to be adding onto this stress. But I'm just not in it anymore. I was just going to tell him that I'm overworked and don't have time for a commitment right now, which is kinda true. I'm just worried I'm going to make his situation worse. :( submitted by /u/AssistantOwn4208 [link] [comments]

Basically what the title says! I’m really over dating and swiping and matching and talking and it’s just so overwhelming and annoying and irritating I can’t seem to find what I want and although I think I’m attractive I’m aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but finding what I want is HARD But every time I go to quit I am reminded that the likelihood of someone just popping up outside of me actively looking is incredibly unlikely and I keep pushing on but it’s feeling like more and more of a disappointment and disservice to my desire to even want a long term partner. I’m at the point where I am having a hard time even finding people attractive like it just feels like a copy and paste of the most annoying red flags ever. For example: I just swiped on someone’s profile on hinge who had a video of him making out with an ex with her face blurred saying “this could be us” like are we Forreal?!?! Any advice would be helpful and appreciated! Just not sure what to do at this point. submitted by /u/ArtStraight7372 [link] [comments]

I've seen the posts about what guys prefer as to a lady and her lady bits. Whether does the guys like it shaved, trimmed or natural. So as a guy, for the women who read this. Guys if your wife or GF asked you to shave or neatly trim your twig and berries. What is your answer? submitted by /u/Different-Excuse5331 [link] [comments]

I have been thinking lately and that I am 27 and am in need of self improvement. Needless to say that I am not the type of guy who girls are attracted to and interested in. This begs the question. What does self improvement look like? and How do you know where to self improve and what to self improve? submitted by /u/Mountain-Elk8133 [link] [comments]

I try to meet them within a week from texting (so I have enough time to get to know them and decide if I actually think I’d vibe with them in person) but I’ve been talking to this guy and we were supposed to go out tonight but he texted me earlier saying he has to work over time. The plans were made last night so it’s not like this was planned for awhile. I don’t think he has any reason to lie either. He also doesn’t text much throughout the day, just a bit if he’s on break or a little after work, which is different from what I’m used to as if I’m interested in someone I try to text them a little bit more throughout the day. so how long would you wait? submitted by /u/littlebigrose09 [link] [comments]

Hey there, I’m 16M and feel like the only guys I see being called attractive online are pretty much hairless except for some leg hair. This is has kind of gotten in my head a bit and wondered if I should start shaving. My chest hair hasn’t really came in too thick or darkened too much yet but it’s enough to be noticeable, a patch in the middle and some hairs around my nipples. I’ve also noticed recently some hair growing on my upper back that annoys me. Seeing a lot of my peers also being hairless (or hiding their chest hair) has also made me a bit self conscious and I don’t even go shirtless at the pool (partially because I’m self conscious of my weight and partially because of my chest hair). The thing is I like my chest hair and want to let it grow thicker, especially since I live in the Midwest where men having chest hair is a bit more common than other places. How do you men feel about your body hair now? And if you like it was there ever a point you were self conscious, and how did you get over it? submitted by /u/CherriEtc [link] [comments]