2nd chance of a relationship with my teenage sweetheart. (I 34M, she 32F)

So for a little context, I’m 26F and have just had my second baby with my partner 28M (10 weeks postpartum). When we started dating I was very skinny, I would say very underweight (about 95lbs) and always wanted to have a fuller figure. Fast forward to now, I am 175 lbs and have never been happier with my body. I feel like I hold the weight really well even though I am a bit chubby now. I’m still very active, I power lifted pre pregnancy and I started again 6 weeks postpartum and also took up kickboxing the past few weeks. I don’t struggle with mobility or feel unhealthy at all. So now that you understand the weight gain situation I need to ask- do I need to lose weight for my partner since he isn’t into my body type now? Am I selfish for wanting to stay this size? It’s been a point of contention the past few weeks because it came up that I don’t want to lose the baby weight. He has made it very clear to me that he does not find the extra weight attractive at all, and it’s unfair if I don’t lose the weight. I love my body though. We have two completely different opinions of what’s hot in a woman. He likes super skinny as I was pre pregnancy, and I have a super thick ass and legs now, with a cute little tummy (humble brag). I’d just like to hear an outside opinion on this because it’s like talking to a wall sometimes and I’m just told no, having extra weight is unattractive and it should be lost. submitted by /u/just_a_girl321 [link] [comments]

Sooo last year I ran into this guy I knew of, while he was at work. He messaged me after I left asking if that was me. We ended up talking and flirting and I went to visit him at work again. This was last year, around this time. We tried to "scare eachother away" by trauma dumping and he indirectly told me he was an avoidant. Things fizzled out after that but then 6 months later we reconnected and actually went to get tattoos together, then we never talked again. That was December. Now its June again & he replied to my story saying i look good. Said something else like "ik you see me creepin" and I just said "i dooo" then today he sends me another message like "i always wanted to shoot my shot with you but i heard some horror stories from our mutual friends" ummm what? Why are you talking to me then? Why would you say that to me? what am I supposed to do about it? I really wanted to say "lmao ok, believe them then" but my curiosity got the best of me and i said "lmao horror stories? What did i supposedly do?" He hasnt responded yet and its kind of annoying me. This is the 2nd man who has said something similar to me... other one was my ex saying im crazy, but this one has me stumped. The only mutuals we have are people I haven't spoken to or associated with in yeaaaars and couldn't possibly know me anymore. I keep to myself, I don't go out partying with everyone, i literally don't have friends & do everything alone. When I talk to someone, i focus on that person. I've had 3 boyfriends in my entire life & 1 of them is dead. The most recent one I was with for 7 years & we had a nasty break up but that was 2 years ago. Wtf could people possibly be talking about me, and why tf do men do this??? Just leave me alone if you want to believe what people i dont associate with have to say about me. What is that supposed to make me want to prove that I'm different? No thanks. submitted by /u/Equivalent-Crazy-333 [link] [comments]

What actually makes you feel desired or appreciated by a woman, whether it's something small or really intimate? I'd love to hear from your perspective...just trying to learn and understand a little better. submitted by /u/cocobuttababyy [link] [comments]

A friend of mine has pointed out a couple things that have got me stuck in my head; he has brought up that he thinks I'm too nice for my own good, that I apologize too much, and has even recommended I get my testosterone checked. Is this my friend subscribing to highly idealized versions of masculinity or is he just legitimately trying to give advice and I'm taking it wrong? submitted by /u/proles4weed [link] [comments]

Hi! I (f, 21) have never been I a relationship before and went on my first date yesterday. He was kind, but during the date I did let him know that I am a person who likes to take things slow. He seemed to be understanding for the most part. At the end I gave him a hug, and kind of felt like he wanted to do something more. I have never kissed anyone before so I was honestly not in the mood especially after one date. He texted me the next day asking if I wanted to hang out again (which I do). I’m scared that he will try to kiss me on date 2 and I’m honestly just not ready for that. I’m not sure if this is abnormal…I just really value friendship over being intimate. Any advice? submitted by /u/Emotional_Repeat_458 [link] [comments]

I'm a 40-year-old man, and she's 32. I've had this issue with previous women I've dated as well. Basically, I get very little sleep the night before a date, sometimes literally zero sleep - just laying in bed awake. It's mainly out of anxiety about the next day, particularly how lack of sleep can affect my libido and ability to sexually perform. I've been seeing this woman for two months, and it's going well. However, our sex life is not fantastic, in part because I'm sometimes not able to get and maintain an erection - I think due in part to lack of sleep. (and I use cialis too) Being sleepless shows up in other ways too. Eyes look terrible, skin is shallow, and I probably just seem off. For tonight's date (dinner and walking around a cool neighborhood), I'm considering just telling her that I have these sleep issues, to get it off my chest and hopefully clarify why I sometimes have these issues with arousal. Not making a "huge deal" about it, but just calmly telling her in a straightfoward way. Part of me thinks this will lessen my "value"/attractiveness in her eyes though, i.e., "wow, this guy is so nervous and into me, he can't even sleep!" But yeah, I look and feel like sh*t right now, and I'll probably perform poorly tonight in bed - again. What should I do? submitted by /u/Alternative_Hope122 [link] [comments]

My bf went to visit his female friend in her home country. They met over a year ago while he was studying abroad and became good friends (when they only knew each other for 2 months, they went on vacation together with another female friend, before we became official). She’s living in her home country again and he visited her for 6 days. He’s been there once before (last year with his other friends), but wanted to experience it with a local, his female friend. On the first three days her other friend tagged along. They celebrated his female friend’s birthday. He didn’t tell me he picked his vacation dates based on her birthday. The next two days he went on a trip to a city near the ocean with her. He told me the same day, that they were sharing an Airbnb but with separate bedrooms, because a hotel room would have been too expensive. We’ve known each other for almost two years, but have been together for over a year now. I told him I was uncomfortable with his vacation plans and that I don’t trust her because I’ve never met her and on pictures it looked like she’s always sitting/ standing close to him like she’s seeking closeness. He assured me they were just good friends and that it was just platonic. I’m so upset and angry for how he treated me. I told him my concerns and yet he wasn’t transparent with me. I feel betrayed. I don’t know how to forgive him, all I feel is anger and hurt. He has apologized and promised to communicate better from now on, but for me it’s not enough. I resent her. And maybe part of me resents him for it, too. Why am I not able to forgive him? And what can I do to achieve that? submitted by /u/YunaYunaY [link] [comments]

Is it necessarily a bad thing? i really don't know. But its pretty clear that when we get in a fight we have triple the amount of sex we were having prior for a few weeks. Then it winds down then a month or so later the cycle seems to repeat. Maybe it feels like it repeats because we are going through normal conflicts long term relationships go through at this age go through. I do get the sense sometimes that little things escalate really hard and fast because of her reaction. The last fight/disagreement we had was something I brought up based on her behavior and actions. I wont go into it but all I really wanted was some accountability and an apology. She gave me a little one then said "can we just skip to the makeup sex" and just pounced on me. I feel like a big dumb dude because I fell for it but the week or so after I just felt a little empty. Like I wasn't being heard or taken seriously. And she got away with it all with sex. Maybe I should still take it as a win? I won't deny it still brings us closer and it brings us back into the honey moon phase for a bit which is a great feeling. But I hope she doesn't think she can always get out of taking accountability with sex. submitted by /u/Altruistic-Head-2228 [link] [comments]

Let's talk about money management, please. I need to know how to secure myself financially, because I'm all I've got. I am not counting on getting married. I don't have any assets and I am my biggest liability. Any advice is welcomed. Little background story: -I got scammed out of money with crypto in 2022 and I got into debt, which I am still paying back. I have been able to stabilize the situation. I have come to a point, where I was able to afford myself a solo trip in March and I don't have any big expenses. I am not doing nails, I don't have any upkeep to my hair and etc. I only have a gym membership subscription (which is important for my mental health); I do pay some amount of rent to my mother (so not to be a freeloader); and I enjoy an occasional dine out and I like to buy some books here and there. Uhm, the dining out/ordering food is actually quite expensive and half my money goes on there- it is spending money out of comfort more than anything, but I think it is damaging me more. I do have an investment account, which I want to look more into. Trading is actually fun! I have a steady job (I am a little worried about 2026, but we'll see, but that's also one of the reasons why I want to manage it a bit better); I am HORRIBLE with saving money. I am better off loading all my money to my investment account. I don't even know how to save. How much? When? Should I open a new bank account? Should I have a pension fund? I guess my goal would be getting tips on how to manage my free money better and get my spending under control or just HAVE more money by the end of the month- each month. Right now is the time for me to get serious and I have a possibility to make better choices, so anything you could point out or advise on, please. Can be even your own psychology behind money. I am sorry if I am being confusing. Money is not my friend. submitted by /u/This-Cookie5548 [link] [comments]

Almost every post about dating has this advice among the top. That you shouldn't worry about relationships, instead enjoy life by yourself. So how does one do it? As far as I know, love and sex and one of the most enjoyable things in life a human can experience. But okay let's overlook that for the sake of argument. What are fun activities you can do alone? And how can I enjoy them if I don't care about the activity itself. submitted by /u/crowbarguy92 [link] [comments]

Where do you meet women who are also serious about dating — outside of the apps? Is cold approaching still a thing? If so, how do I do it without being weird? I’m an Indian guy in the U.S., early 30s decent/cute-looking (so I’ve been told), and ready to date more intentionally. I’m not into flings — I’d genuinely like to meet someone and see where it goes, ideally toward a meaningful partnership. I know apps exist and social clubs/events help, but I’m curious submitted by /u/Worth-Scientist-9628 [link] [comments]

I have two young sons five and two . I take care of myself physically working at six . I also eat healthy and rarely drink . I don’t really wanna go to bars and stuff. I’m worried I’ll never find someone else. submitted by /u/Repulsive-Dealer7957 [link] [comments]

~this is more so venting~ A week ago I told my boyfriend that I can’t get off during sex. Before I could even further elaborate he immediately broke up with me and walked out. Some insight of how I am feeling with some background to the situation- I feel that when we do the deed the main focus is him I do all the things for him yet I usually get nothing in return. I did bring this up awhile ago and he started doing more for me but that faded after months. Anytime we get into arguments (which isnt often but when we do he blows up, tells me to go be with someone else) he disappears for weeks to months at a time and I’ve always tried to reconcile with him for him to ignore me and when he does come back around it’s either him going off on me saying I didn’t try hard enough even though I’ve texted and called. I’ve always stood my ground and told him to look and actually read the texts I’ve sent if he didn’t just delete them and look at his call history. Or he’ll come back around and act like nothing happened. Moral of the story I’m getting tired of always being blamed, not getting things in return, being told I didn’t try hard enough, getting ghosted for however long after a disagreement. This time around I decided I wasn’t reaching out I wasn’t going to try to fight for some who wouldn’t do the same for me. I just can’t stop thinking about this situation and I need to for my own sanity. How do I stop? submitted by /u/Ancient_House_8831 [link] [comments]

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months and about 3 months ago we started having fights constantly. I have this feeling he’s trying to control me, won’t let me have male followers on ig, i can’t drink alcohol because he rarely drinks, i can’t go out with my girlfriends to bars or parties, i only can see them if we go for a lunch or a movie date, so resentment has started building up from my side. When we met i told him that i value my friendships and individuality outside the relationship but he’s acting like i never said that. Last saturday we went to the beach and he spent the whole day criticising me, then we went to his house, slept together and when i decided to eat he said i was chewing loudly and that i sounded like an animal, he was very rude.. i had enough.. i told him i was gonna leave and i did. I decided not to contact him for a while because i felt very disrespected, and also i am the one that reaches out everytime we have an argument. Im tired of him stonewalling me. I can’t understand how can he go a whole week without speaking with me knowing i was really hurt when i left his house. Before leaving i told him “don’t forget that im the one that always tries to solve things when we argue”. I don’t know what to do at this point, i feel very disappointed and frustrated. TL;DR: i (28F) got into a fight with my boyfriend (36M) and we haven’t spoken for a week submitted by /u/Which_Buddy [link] [comments]

Blank account, because IRL friends know my reddit profile. For some context, I’ve never have been in a relationship or have any sexual experiences. This mostly may have to do with my upbringing, being homeschooled, with few friends until I hit 20. I wasn’t a loser, I had just been really focusing on my arts, and had gotten some really big opportunities come my way, but not a lot of friends, I never cared to try either. I was very content with myself. By the time I hit 23, everything had started to change massively, I made some friends that sparked a chain reaction into more friends, new accomplishments, etc. Now, I’m very socially confident, emotionally in-tune, kind, I care about doing the right thing, I’m very thoughtful, I have no judgment for the world, I get along with everyone. I don’t know how to say this, but it’s like I’m viewed as some mystical creature that people love. I’ve tested photos of myself on rating sites, and I get an above average score, I also get plenty of compliments on the street, from men and women. I don’t want to self praise this much, but I say to put it in perspective that my problem doesn’t seem to be with any of these things. I wouldn’t say I have a low libido, I would guess that it is very high. Some women seem to have been infatuated with me, but it always ends up with me sort of putting them in the friend zone, as I don’t feel like I have any sexual energy, or at least I’m bad at displaying it. I have a look that suggests I should be sexy. At clubs girls have pulled me in to dance with them, but ultimately you could almost just imagine me as a fun introspective gay guy lol. Am I interested in them? Yes, but I don’t pursue or make any moves. I’ve had dates that fizzle out for the same reason. I think maybe the root to the problem is that I value being respectful more than wanting to sexually connect with anyone, I prefer close bonds with people. I don’t truly believe they’re mutually exclusive, but I don’t know how to chase a sexual urge. I don’t necessarily need sex or a relationship, but I get more worried that as I age it will become extremely difficult for me to get a relationship in the future. So, loss aversion is my main dating motivation right now, which I don’t think helps my situation. I have an intuition that maybe I need a dating coach, or that maybe I need to just start being more forward sexually, but it feels kind of icky to me. I don’t really know what to do. Maybe you all have some insights or helpful antidotes. TLDR: Virgin. Nothing is wrong with me, I get opportunities, but don’t escalate. Either I don’t know how, or don’t have the motivation to turn a potential close friendship into a sexual one. submitted by /u/ThreeGreenPortals [link] [comments]

I'm 20M and am a virgin, even though I’ve had relationships. Lately I've been having a lot of thoughts about sex before and after marriage. I’m a pretty committed Christian. I know that traditionally, according to my religion I should wait, it's just lately I've been rethinking what my religion actually teaches about sexuality. And let’s be honest, my desire to have sex now has grown a lot lol. But on the other hand, even setting religion aside, I always feel like I wanna be able to offer that to my wife, the fact she'll be the first and only woman I sleep with. But on the other hand part of me just doesn’t want to wait that long. Part of me wants to go hook up tomorrow. So I honestly don’t know. I'm wondering, the guys that waited till marriage, how was it? Would you do it again? How do you feel about it? And on the other hand, if you don’t think waiting til marriage is wise, why? So I'm genuinely seeking advice from men that waited, as well as opinions from men who disagree with waiting. I’m open to any perspective. submitted by /u/Naive_Resolution4186 [link] [comments]

What made this experience THE BEST in your life? submitted by /u/Head_Baker6201 [link] [comments]

So as the title suggests. I’m 23 and recently met a girl through mutual connections. We’ve hit it off recently. She’s funny, sarcastic, we share similar values and financial goals. She’s 22 and has a 2 year old son. So here I ask, is it too early in life for that responsibility? I’m just not sure. I really enjoy her company. Has anyone as young as me made it work with a single mom? Thanks Gents. Needed to see the light. Couldn’t find anyone else discussing it, your incite is valuable. submitted by /u/Dexieboui [link] [comments]